Story on special queen was refreshing
To the editor:
I wanted to take a minute to commend you on the beautifully written article about Ms. Ashlynn Parks.
I don’t know her personally but learned a great deal about her spirit and her role in the school. I have been involved in the disability community for several years and am always disheartened to see stories that focus solely on that aspect of a person rather than all of the unique, distinct qualities that make them worth knowing.
These articles are often written from a place of misguided pity. While you can’t separate a person from their disability, it’s often low on the list of the best things to know about them.
Your article reads exactly this way about this beautiful young lady. I loved reading how she’s found her comfort and has been able to come out of her shell, to sing, to encourage others.
Through your writing, I saw who she is as a person. Thank you for sharing her story.
Are female residents safe in nursing homes?
To the editor:
Most families and patients expect nursing homes and rehabilitation facilities to uphold patient dignity and take precautions to prevent sexual abuse.
According to North Carolina’s Care Home Bill of Rights, nursing home residents can expect to be treated with respect, consideration, and dignity with full recognition of individuality and the right to privacy.
However, many nursing homes disregard the dignity of female residents. These facilities allow male medical personnel to help with intimate care including bathing, changing diapers, and dressing. This is very sad.
A majority of women are uncomfortable with male nurses/aides helping them with intimate care. This gender-neutral care was unheard of decades ago. To make matters worse, many of these female residents have dementia and/or serious physical conditions that leave them defenseless and unable to speak up.
This makes them easy prey for sexual abuse. Due to their medical conditions many of these women cannot say what happened and are not believed.
Sexual assault in nursing homes is becoming more commonplace and is extremely difficult to prove. As well, these crimes are underreported because many of the victims have unreliable memories due to dementia.
Luis Gomez, a well-liked male CNA who sexually assaulted multiple female nursing home residents in Waynesville, was found guilty of six sexual offenses on these residents in 2017.
It is disturbing that a number of nursing homes in Haywood County continue to allow male aides and nurses to carry out intimate care procedures on female residents. Disregarding any resident’s dignity opens the door for potential sexual abuse.
These heinous crimes usually do not happen overnight, but progress slowly. This is exactly what happened with Luis Gomez. He started violating female residents’ dignity by assisting them with intimate care; this led to Gomez sexually assaulting them.
Because of these proven sexual violations, the nursing home industry should address its gender-neutral approach of intimate care for female residents and recognize the potential for sexual abuse by male staff members. These crimes have risen dramatically in the era of gender-neutrality.
Ironically, most women’s prisons in the United States have policies that prohibit male security guards from stripping female inmates — even if they are suspected of hiding drugs — or watch them showering.
Nursing homes need to realize these concerns, as well, and enact similar policies to protect female residents’ dignity and safety.
To learn more about this issue, check out the article, How Nursing Homes Can Protect Residents’ Dignity and Prevent Sexual Abuse at http://www.patientmodesty.org/nursinghomes.aspx and the video, Problems With Medicine Being Gender Neutral at www.youtube.com/patientmodesty.
Misty Roberts is the president of Medical Patient Modesty, a non-profit organization that works to educate patients about how to stand up for their rights to modesty and prevent sexual abuse by medical professionals. She lives in Waynesville.